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Halal sex : the intimate lives of Muslim women in North America  Cover Image Book Book

Halal sex : the intimate lives of Muslim women in North America / Sheima Benembarek ; foreword by Mona Eltahawy.

Benembarek, Sheima, (author.). Eltahawy, Mona, 1967- (writer of foreword.).

Summary:

"This unprecedented and compassionate glimpse into the sex lives of seven Muslim women across North America brings a hushed conversation out into the open. Sheima Benembarek's parents never gave her the "the talk." When she left Morocco to go to university in Montreal, she was completely unprepared to navigate an open and active sex life outside of marriage, considered haram within the Muslim world. Now, many years later, she's all too aware of how common this is among immigrants and the children of immigrants living on a more sexually liberated continent. She set out to eliminate the taboo, interviewing Muslims from of a variety of locations, ethnicities, Islamic sects, and socioeconomic backgrounds about a host of topics, from masturbation and hymens to sex work and BDSM. Halal Sex is the culmination of these conversations, distilled into seven rich and compelling stories. Among the subjects are Hind, a niqabi in a polygynous marriage; Azar, a non-binary trans Sufi; Taslim, a virgin in her forties struggling to erect healthy boundaries with her family; and Eman, a lesbian stand-up comic in an interfaith marriage. With great care and thoughtfulness, Benembarek reveals a tapestry of diverse Islam and of individuals forging a path forward, each in their own way: overcoming shame, filling in educational gaps, balancing familial pressures, pushing back against sexism and patriarchy, and--ultimately--prioritizing their own happiness and pleasure."-- Provided by publisher.

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  • ISBN: 9780735244221 (trade paperback)
  • Physical Description: xii, 220 pages ; 21 cm
  • Publisher: Toronto, ON : Viking Canada, 2023.
Subject: Muslim women > Sexual behavior > North America > Anecdotes.
Muslim women > Sexual behavior > North America.
Muslim women > North America > Social life and customs.

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  • 1 of 1 copy available at Tsuga Consortium.

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  • Penguin Putnam
    *SHORTLISTED FOR THE QWF CONCORDIA UNIVERSITY FIRST BOOK PRIZE*

    An unprecedented glimpse into the sex lives of female and gender-expansive Muslims living across Canada and the United States.


    In the Muslim world, sex is permissible (or halal) only within the confines of marriage. Outside of wedlock, the act is considered haram, a sin of the faith. Girls are taught to protect their virginity; their mothers, if not forgoing “the talk” altogether, obscure the facts with elliptical language and metaphors.

    So, what happens when immigrants and the children of immigrants set about pursuing an open and active sex life on a more sexually liberated continent, amid western peers and attitudes? The six deeply personal stories in Halal Sex attempt to answer this question, bringing a hushed conversation out into the open.

    Within these pages you’ll meet Azar, a non-binary trans Sufi; Bunmi, a Nigerian navigating shame and Tinder; Eman, a lesbian stand-up comic in an interfaith marriage; Taslim, a virgin in her forties struggling to erect healthy boundaries; and Khadijah, an exotic dancer and sex worker.

    With great empathy, Sheima Benembarek makes space for the honesty and vulnerability of each participant and handles their stories with gentleness and care. What emerges is a tapestry of a diverse Islam—encompassing a wide variety of cultural and religious and socioeconomic backgrounds—and a frank, feminist contribution to the advancement of Muslim sexual education and pleasure.

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