Before they were men : essays on manhood, compassion, and what went wrong / Jacob Tobia.
"The conversation about masculinity, patriarchy, and misogyny has never been so prominent or heated. Alarmed by a new generation of angry, broken young men, genderqueer writer Jacob Tobia set out to explore what was going on and came to a shocking conclusion: emotionally and spiritually-speaking, men and boys may be the ones suffering the most under the gender binary right now. Jacob should know. For their gender-defying adolescent heart, the nonconsensual process of being "made a man" was crushing. After spending a lifetime fleeing manhood and masculinity, Jacob dares to ask the question: what happens if we stop understanding men as categorical beneficiaries of patriarchal institutions and start understanding them for what they are -- co-survivors of patriarchy itself? In a series of personal and devastating essays, Before They Were Men argues that we must rewire our entire framework of feminism. A much-needed nonbinary intervention into a two-sided discourse gone stale, Jacob boldly posits compassion and empathy as the paradigm-shifting forces that will lead men -- and us all -- to a brighter future. Urgent, surprising, and at times, hilarious, they cover topics like: The unspoken body image issues and dysmorphia confronting men and boys. The difficulty of challenging a world that glorifies war, aggression, and the violence of men. The case for rethinking, and ultimately retiring, counterproductive terms like "Toxic Masculinity" and "Male Privilege""-- Provided by publisher.
Record details
- ISBN: 9780593797945 (hardcover)
- Physical Description: xxxv, 275 pages ; 25 cm
- Edition: First edition.
- Publisher: New York : Harmony, [2025]
- Copyright: ©2025
Content descriptions
Bibliography, etc. Note: | Includes bibliographical references. |
Formatted Contents Note: | Prelude -- Introduction : to the boys in the back -- Catcalls -- Don't you know that you're toxic? -- Child soldiers -- The rites of men -- Big dick idiocy -- Incelopathy -- Get fucked -- It's been a privilege -- Teeth -- The bunker -- Monster talk -- Epilogue : dear men. |
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Subject: | Masculinity. Men > Social conditions. Misogyny. Patriarchy. Sex role. |
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