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Outsmarting the sociopath next door : how to protect yourself against a ruthless manipulator / by Stout, Martha,1953-author.;
Includes bibliographical references and index."From Dr. Martha Stout's influential work The Sociopath Next Door, we learned how to identify a sociopath. Now she tells us what to actually do about it. Using the many chilling and often heartbreaking emails and letters she has received over the years, Dr. Stout uncovers the psychology behind the sociopath's methods and provides concrete guidelines to help navigate these dangerous interactions"--
Subjects: Manipulative behavior; Psychopaths.; Control (Psychology);
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Wanting : the power of mimetic desire in everyday life / by Burgis, Luke,author.;
Includes bibliographical references and index."Wanting is a groundbreaking exploration of why we want what we want, and a toolkit for freeing ourselves from chasing unfulfilling desires. As an undergraduate studying philosophy at Stanford, Peter Thiel met French polymath René Girard and was introduced to his theory of "mimetic desire"-the idea that most human wanting comes from imitating what other people desire, rather than from an innate sense of need. Inducted into the Académie Française as the "Darwin of the social sciences," Girard is largely unknown outside academic circles. But because of Girard, Thiel knew that Facebook would thrive because it offered a window into people's curated presentation of the best parts of their lives, thereby satisfying our need to look for "models" who tell us what to desire. According to Girard, each of us is surrounded by people who generate, shape, and manipulate our desires at every turn. Mimetic desire is no mere tool of advertisers but a reality that affects our daily lives in romance, work, fitness, politics, and parenting. Mimetic desire is a secret, unacknowledged, sophisticated form of adult imitation that drives a larger degree of human behavior than anybody ever realized. The consequences of mimetic desire are startling. Because people learn to want what other people want, they are easily drawn into rivalries and conflict. According to Girard, people don't fight because they want different things; they fight because, through mimetic desire, they start to want the same things. But mimetic desire does not have to be in control. We are free to choose. And those who understand mimetic desire have a tremendous advantage over those who don't-they can use it for good or for ill. Drawing on his experience as an entrepreneur, teacher, and student of classical philosophy and theology, Luke Burgis shows how to counteract the mimetic forces of the market by turning blind wanting into intentional wanting-not by trying to rid ourselves of desire, but by desiring differently. Intentional desire is what propels us to create a better world. Burgis shows how to achieve more independence from trends and bubbles, how to feel more in control of the things we want, and ultimately how to find more meaning in our work and life by grounding them in desires that will never fade away"--
Subjects: Desire.; Imitation.; Basic needs;
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The midnight children / by Gemeinhart, Dan,author.;
"In the dead of night, a truck arrives in Slaughterville, a small town curiously named after its windowless slaughterhouse. Seven mysterious kids with suitcases step out of the vehicle and into an abandoned home on a dead-end street, looking over their shoulders to make sure they aren't noticed. But Ravani Foster covertly witnesses their arrival from his bedroom window. Timid and lonely, Ravani is eager to learn everything he can about his new neighbors: What secrets are they hiding? And most mysterious of all...where are the adults? Yet amid this shadowy group of children, Ravani finds an unexpected friend in the warm and gutsy Virginia. But with this friendship comes secrets revealed—and danger. When Ravani learns of a threat to his new friends, he must fight to keep them safe, or lose the only person who has ever understood him."
Subjects: Novels.; Fantasy fiction.; Detective and mystery fiction; Orphans; Runaway children; Friendship; Neighbors; Belonging (Social psychology); JUVENILE FICTION / Family / Orphans & Foster Homes.; JUVENILE FICTION / Mysteries & Detective Stories.;
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The friends we keep / by Mallery, Susan,author.;
"After five years as a stay-at-home mom, Gabby Schaefer can't wait to return to work. Oh, to use the bathroom in peace! No twins clamoring at the door, no husband barging in, no stepdaughter throwing a tantrum. But when her plans are derailed by some shocking news and her husband's crushing expectations, Gabby must fight for the right to have a life of her own. Getting pregnant is easy for Hayley Batchelor. Staying pregnant is the hard part. Her husband is worried about the expensive fertility treatments and frantic about the threat to her health. But to Hayley, a woman who was born to be a mom should risk everything to fulfill her destiny--no matter how high the cost. Nicole Lord is still shell-shocked by a divorce that wasn't as painful as it should've been. Other than the son they share, her ex-husband left barely a ripple in her life. A great new guy tempts her to believe maybe the second time's the charm ... but how can she trust herself to recognize true love?"--
Subjects: Chick lit.; Domestic fiction.; Psychological fiction.; Novels.; Change (Psychology); Divorced women; Female friendship; Interpersonal attraction; Life change events; Man-woman relationships; Pregnant women; Self-actualization (Psychology) in women; Self-realization in women; Women; Working mothers;
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Firekeeper : a novel / by Katłįà.1982-author.;
"Nyla has an affinity to fire. A neglected teen in a small northern town--trying to escape a mother battling her own terrors--she is kicked out and struggles through life on the streets. Desperate for love, Nyla accidentally sets fire to her ex's building and is then incarcerated for arson. Through community-led diversion, Nyla finds herself on a reserve as their firekeeper. But when climate change--induced wildfires threaten her new home, she knows intimately how to fight back. The fourth book from acclaimed writer Katłıà brings a Northern Indigenous perspective to the destructive effects of ongoing colonialism. Displaying Katłıà's enthralling storytelling style, Firekeeper is a coming-of-age tale that addresses intergenerational trauma by reclaiming culture, belonging and identity. Join Nyla on her healing journey through the fire to sacred waters."--
Subjects: Bildungsromans.; Psychological fiction.; Novels.; Lafferty, Catherine,; Climatic changes; Fires; Generational trauma; Identity (Psychology); Indigenous women; Nature; Self; Wildfires;
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Secure love : create a relationship that lasts a lifetime / by Menanno, Julie,author.;
Includes bibliographical references and index."What does a healthy relationship look like? A good question, in theory, but expert couple's therapist Julie Menanno wants you to consider: what does a securely attached relationship feel like? The answer to this question is the ultimate goal in Secure Love, a groundbreaking guide to understanding secure attachment in adult relationships. While attachment theory has grown in popularity to explain the relationship between children and their caregivers, it's also the closest science has come to making sense of our adult romantic connections. Julie Menanno is the couple's therapist behind the popular Instagram account @TheSecureRelationship, whose valuable relationship advice from her expertise gained her over a million fans. In Secure Love, Menanno tackles: Why you and your partner have the same fight over and over (hint: it's called a negative cycle, and underlying every fight, argument, silent treatment, or passive-aggressive comment is an unmet attachment need). The four attachment types, with exercises designed to help you understand you and your partner's attachment style. How to improve communication, including staying connected during conflict by prioritizing vulnerability rather than protecting yourself. 'Instead of that, say this' suggested scripts of how to approach difficult situations in your relationship. Why insecure attachment negatively impacts a couple's sex life and how to restore that sexual connection. Secure Love is a crash course in understanding how you show up in a relationship and how to get out of negative cycles. Menanno teaches you how to establish a secure attachment with your partner to create the bond you've been longing for."--
Subjects: Attachment behavior.; Couples; Interpersonal communication.;
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Devil is fine / by Vercher, John,author.;
"Our narrator is haunted. Haunted by panic attacks, a failed relationship, alcoholism, an academic career that wants to define him by his Blackness, and the trauma of the recent death of his 17-year-old son, Malcolm. When a letter arrives informing him that his maternal grandfather has left Malcolm a plot of land, our narrator leaves his life behind and heads to the seaside of the Northeast, where his identity is shaken by the dark and haunting secret that lies beneath this inherited land. With the wit of Paul Beatty's The Sellout and the nuance of Zadie Smith's On Beauty, author John Vercher's Devil is Fine is an emotional account of what it is to be a father, a son, a writer, and a biracial American fighting to reconcile freedom and creativity with the footprint of colonialism. Gripping, surrealist, and darkly funny, Devil is Fine is a brilliantly-crafted dissection of the legacies we leave behind, and those we inherit"--
Subjects: Domestic fiction.; Magic realist fiction.; Novels.; African Americans; Fathers and sons; Grief; Identity (Psychology); Inheritance and succession; Sons;
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Strung out : one last hit and other lies that nearly killed me : a memoir / by Khar, Erin,author.;
In this deeply personal and illuminating memoir about her fifteen-year struggle with heroin, Khar sheds profound light on the opioid crisis and gives a voice to the over two million people in America currently battling with this addiction. Growing up in LA, Erin Khar hid behind a picture-perfect childhood filled with excellent grades, a popular group of friends and horseback riding. After first experimenting with her grandmother's expired painkillers, Khar started using heroin when she was thirteen. The drug allowed her to escape from pressures to be perfect and suppress all the heavy feelings she couldn't understand. This fiercely honest memoir explores how heroin shaped every aspect of her life for the next fifteen years and details the various lies she told herself, and others, about her drug use. With enormous heart and wisdom, she shows how the shame and stigma surrounding addiction, which fuels denial and deceit, is so often what keeps addicts from getting help. There is no one path to recovery, and for Khar, it was in motherhood that she found the inner strength and self-forgiveness to quit heroin and fight for her life. Strung Out is a life-affirming story of resilience while also a gripping investigation into the psychology of addiction and why people turn to opioids in the first place.
Subjects: Autobiographies.; Biographies.; Khar, Erin.; Drug addicts; Drug abuse; Heroin abuse.;
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How not to drown in a glass of water / by Cruz, Angie,author.;
"From the beloved author of Dominicana, a GMA Book Club Pick and Women's Prize Finalist, an electrifying and indelible new novel about a woman who has lost everything but the chance to finally tell her story. Write this down: Cara Romero wants to work. Cara Romero thought she would work at the factory of little lamps for the rest of her life. But when, in her mid-50s, she loses her job in the Great Recession, she is forced back into the job market for the first time in decades. Set up with a job counselor, Cara instead begins to narrate the story of her life. Over the course of twelve sessions, Cara recounts her tempestuous love affairs, her alternately biting and loving relationships with her neighbor Lulu and her sister Angela, her struggles with debt, gentrification and loss, and, eventually, what really happened between her and her estranged son, Fernando. As Cara confronts her darkest secrets and regrets, we see a woman buffeted by life but still full of fight. Structurally inventive and emotionally kaleidoscopic, How Not to Drown in a Glass of Water is Angie Cruz's most ambitious and moving novel yet, and Cara is a heroine for the ages"--
Subjects: Psychological fiction.; Novels.; Identity (Psychology); Interpersonal relations; Middle-aged women;
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Money for couples : no more stress, no more fights, just a 10-step plan to create your Rich Life together / by Sethi, Ramit,author.;
"From personal finance juggernaut Ramit Sethi, here is the definitive book about a defining challenge for millions of people: navigating the tricky waters of money in a serious relationship. Drawing on Ramit's deep experience working with thousands of couples, this book will help readers go from financial frustration to joy and possibility as they finally discover a way to connect over money. Ramit's 10-step program addresses the common money issues in relationships: how to stop fighting over money; how to get both partners to participate in the finances; how to handle the situation when one partner is a saver and the other a spender; and how to take control of too much debt. There are no boring budgets or restrictive plans in this book. Readers begin by identifying their "Rich Life"-a vision of the kind of amazing life you want to live with your partner-including word-for-word scripts to have these conversations together. They are then gently guided to analyze their own spending and understand their money psychology: why they see money differently than their partner, how their childhood affects their view of money, and how to eliminate the day-to-day money fights. Packed with juicy, enlightening real-world stories, answers to the most common questions (how much to invest, how to teach children about money, whether to sign a prenup), and step-by-step scripts for navigating tricky conversations, Money for Couples helps readers become competent both as financial managers and as kind, caring, and open communicators with their partners. Your relationship is too important for guilt, resentment, or fighting over
Subjects: Couples;
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