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- You don't have to quit : 20 science-backed strategies to help your loved one drink less / by Palmer, Maureen,author.; Pond, Michael,1953-author.;
Includes bibliographical references and index.A paradigm-shifting approach to caring for someone who drinks too much that will transform your relationship, and may save your partner's life. Steeped in a culture that glorifies drinking while new health regulations suggest no level of alcohol consumption is risk-free, more and more people are struggling with excessive alcohol use and alcohol use disorder. Their loved ones want to help, science tells us they are best positioned to help, but the culture discourages this and in fact shames and blames those who want to help. Counter to everything you've ever heard, you're not a codependent or an enabler for wanting to help. You've seen your beloved person drunk. Maybe a lot. There are few human experiences less dignified. And then in your attempts to get them to quit, you may have inadvertently overlaid a layer of shame and humiliation perhaps almost as destructive as the alcohol. The more frustrated you get because they won't quit, the more your reptilian brain runs the show, the less dignified you may find yourself behaving. What if, instead, you assumed the goal of "any positive change" as it relates to your partner's drinking. What if, rather than total abstinence, together, you found a way to reduce the harms associated with their alcohol use? The word "reduce," rather than "quit," is key, because a harm reduction approach to alcohol bests your chances that you both come out the other side of this process successful with your dignity intact. In You Don't Have to Quit, Maureen Palmer offers you twenty shame-free strategies for supporting your loved one to make healthier choices related to their alcohol use. It all starts with taking care of yourself, letting go of the wretched and pervasive ideology of codependence, and valuing positive change, even in small increments. The twenty tips offered here maximize your chances of maintaining your dignity as individuals, further bolstering the strength of your relationship.- Subjects: Alcoholics' spouses.; Alcoholics; Alcoholism; Controlled drinking.;
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- Flipping boxcars : a novel / by Kyles, Cedric,1965-author.; Eisenstock, Alan,author.; container of (work):Cedric,the Entertainer,1965-Flipping boxcars.;
"Cedric The Entertainer's debut novel Flipping Boxcars is a valentine to close-knit black families and tightly woven communities during the Depression and World War II. The story is also an homage to Cedric's grandfather, who in this tale emerges as Babe. He is a charismatic and widely loved man. He is also a gambler, whose gift of gab often gets him out of tricky situations, which is often. Babe is also a dreamer, something he shares in common with his patient and loving wife. They both yearn for financial stability and need to hold on to their land as insurance for future generations. However, when Babe and a few comrades enlist in a scheme that improbably falls apart, Babe places his family on the verge of losing everything. What's a family man to do? Babe decides to go for one more big scheme involving railroad boxcars. In breakneck speed, Cedric the Entertainer pulls readers in and never lets them go until the last page. Will Babe succeed? Will Rosie continue to support her husband? Are the Feds on to Babe's scheme? Flipping Boxcars is a page-turner anchored by rich, multi-dimensional characters, and oozing with Cedric The Entertainer's inimitable charm"--- Subjects: Domestic fiction.; Historical fiction.; Novels.; African American families; Alcohol trafficking; Gamblers; Gambling; Railroad cars; Spouses;
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- Everything I have is yours : a marriage / by Henderson, Eleanor,author.;
"A turbulent romance meets harrowing medical mystery: the true story of the author's twenty-year marriage defined by her husband's chronic illness-and a testament to the endurance of love. Eleanor met Aaron when she was just a teenager and he was working at a local record store-older, cool, experienced, and with an electric personality. Escaping the clichés of fleeting young love, their summer romance bloomed into a relationship that survived college and culminated in a marriage and two children. From the outside looking in, their life had all the trappings of what most would consider a success story. But, as in any marriage, things weren't always as they seemed. On top of the typical stresses of parenting, money, and work, there were Aaron's untended wounds of depression, addiction, and family trauma. Then, when burning lesions appeared on his body overnight, Eleanor was as baffled as his doctors. There seemed to be no obvious diagnosis, let alone a cure. And when the lesions gave way to Aaron's increasingly disturbed concerns about parasites living inside him, the husband she loved began to unravel before her eyes. A new fissure ruptured in their marriage, and new questions piled onto old ones: Where does physical illness end and mental illness begin? Where does one person end and another begin? And how do we exist alongside someone else's suffering? Emotional, propulsive, and at times heartbreaking, Eleanor Henderson's Everything I Have Is Yours tells the story of a marriage tested by powerful forces out of both partners' control. It's not only a memoir of a wife's tireless quest to heal her husband, but one that asks just what it means to accept someone as they are"--- Subjects: Biographies.; Autobiographies.; Henderson, Eleanor; Henderson, Aaron; Authors, American; Novelists, American; Spouses; Depression, Mental.; Depression in men.; Alcoholism.;
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- Sandrine's case / by Cook, Thomas H.;
Samuel Madison always wondered what Sandrine saw in him. He's a meek, stuffy doctorate student, and she's a brilliant, beautiful bohemian with limitless talent and imagination. Yet on the surface their marriage seemed perfectly tranquil. Then one night Sandrine is found dead in their bed from a deadly overdose of pain medication and alcohol, and Samuel is accused of poisoning her. As the truth of their turbulent marriage comes to light, Samuel must face a town convinced of his guilt.- Subjects: Suspense fiction.; Mystery fiction.; College teachers; Man-woman relationships; Spouses; Trials (Murder);
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- Love lives here : a story of thriving in a transgender family / by Jetté Knox, Amanda,author.;
"All Amanda Jetté Knox ever wanted was to enjoy a stable life. She never knew her biological father, and while her mother and stepfather were loving parents, the situation was sometimes chaotic. At school, she was bullied mercilessly, and at the age of fourteen, she entered a counselling program for alcohol addiction and was successful. While still a teenager, she met the love of her life. They were wed at 20, and the first of three children followed shortly. Jetté Knox finally had the stability she craved--or so it seemed. Their middle child struggled with depression and avoided school. The author was unprepared when the child she knew as her son came out as transgender at the age of eleven. Shocked, but knowing how important it was to support her daughter, Jetté Knox became an ardent advocate for trans rights. But the story wasn't over. For many years, the author had coped with her spouse's moodiness, but that chronic unhappiness was taking a toll on their marriage. A little over a year after their child came out, her partner also came out as transgender. Knowing better than most what would lie ahead, Jetté Knox searched for positive examples of marriages surviving transition. When she found no role models, she determined that her family would become one. The shift was challenging, but slowly the family members noticed that they were becoming happier and more united. Told with remarkable candour and humour, and full of insight into the challenges faced by trans people, Love Lives Here is a beautiful story of transition, frustration, support, acceptance, and, of course, love."--- Subjects: Autobiographies.; Biographies.; Jetté Knox, Amanda.; Jetté Knox, Amanda; Parents of transgender children; Human rights workers; Sexual minorities' families; Transgender people;
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